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The Self-Abandonment Cure™ - The Group Edition

From Self-Sacrifice to Unshakeable Inner Worth

A 3-month group coaching programme to help people finally put themselves
first.

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Your reactions scare you

Someone cancels plans. A partner says the wrong thing. And what comes up inside you feels completely out of proportion — a wave of hurt, rage, or shutdown that you can’t explain and can’t seem to stop. 

You sell yourself short

You undercharge for your work, settle for relationships that take more than they give, and accept less than you deserve. It’s not a lack of awareness. It’s self-betrayal so practiced it feels like humility. 

You let yourself down

Not standing up for yourself when it matters. Skipping the gym again. Scrolling for hours when you promised yourself an early night. And the person on the receiving end of every broken promise? You.

If any of this sounds familiar, this program is for you.

Your wounds aren't your fault, but they are your responsibility to heal.

– Denice Frohman – 

The Group Program

The Self-Abandonment Cure™

What is The
Self-Abandonment Cure™?

A structured process for people who are ready to stop living from their survival patterns and start living from their Real Self — held in a small group across six sessions over three months, with AI-assisted journaling deepening the work between every call. 

The group becomes part of the process. As we work through one person’s experience, others recognise themselves in it — gaining insight from questions they may never have thought to ask and stories they may never have thought to tell. One person’s breakthrough can become someone else’s aha moment.

What actually changes

What shifts here isn’t your understanding — it’s the effort it takes to choose yourself. The habit of self-abandonment starts to lose its grip. Boundaries stop being something you have to remember to enforce. Choosing yourself stops feeling like a risk. Inner worth stops being something you perform and starts being something you simply have.

And you don’t get there alone. You are seen and understood not only by me, but by people walking the same path — people who recognise parts of themselves in you, just as you recognise parts of yourself in them. You don’t just experience your own transformation. You get to witness what’s possible as it happens in others, too.

The Self-Abandonment Cure™ core result:

"Healing stops being a project.
It becomes a way of being where choosing yourself comes naturally."

Investment

R4,800 | $480

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3 Months. 6 Sessions. Maximum 8 People.
AI Journaling Support In Between.

What's Included:

A session every two weeks — enough space between sessions for the work to land, close enough together that momentum doesn’t stall.

Different stages of the healing journey need different tools — what helps you isn’t the same at every point. The Healing Stage Quiz™ maps exactly where you are on it before we begin, so the tools we use match where you actually are, not a generic starting point.

Identifies the specific wounds quietly running your patterns. Turns ‘something is wrong with me’ into something precise and workable.

Name the survival identity you built in childhood and exactly how it’s showing up in your life now.

Personalised journaling prompts between every session, written for exactly what you’re working through right now. The work doesn’t stop when the call ends.

A personalised roadmap for what comes next, built from everything we uncovered together — so the moment the programme ends isn’t the moment you stop moving forward.

Before Session 1, you’ll complete three diagnostic tools — the Healing Stage Quiz™, Hidden Wound Quiz™ and Self-Abandonment Archetype Quiz™ — so we start exactly where you are.

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FAQs

common questions

The Self-Abandonment Cure™ Group program FAQs

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Traditional coaching often focuses on goals, habits, performance, accountability, and mindset. Innerness focuses on the hidden patterns beneath recurring struggles. Instead of asking, “How do I stop selling myself short?” we ask, “What happened that made you doubt your worth in the first place?” The work is less about becoming a better version of yourself and more about discovering the person you were always supposed to be.

AI cannot heal people. Healing happens through awareness, emotional processing, new experiences, and different choices over time. What AI can do remarkably well is support self-reflection. Many people find it easier to explore difficult emotions, organise their thoughts, recognise patterns, and gain perspective through AI-assisted journaling. Used responsibly, AI can accelerate insight. Used poorly, it can also become another way to stay in your head, analyse endlessly, or avoid the emotional work itself. That is why I view AI as a tool rather than a solution. The transformation comes from what you do with the insight.

You absolutely can. Many people gain valuable insights from AI journaling. The limitation is that most people don’t know where they are in the healing process, what pattern they’re actually dealing with, or what the next step should be. Without a framework, it’s easy to spend months analysing thoughts, revisiting the same stories, and collecting insights without understanding how they fit together or processing the emotions keeping you stuck. The Innerness approach combines AI-assisted reflection with a structured transformation map, helping you identify hidden wounds, recognise self-abandonment patterns, and understand where you are in the journey from the Adaptive Self to the Real Self. The goal isn’t simply to generate insight. The goal is to create meaningful movement.

No. The foundation of Innerness™ is coaching, not technology. Some clients choose to incorporate AI-assisted journaling between sessions because it can accelerate self-reflection and help identify recurring patterns. Others prefer traditional journaling and reflection exercises. AI is simply one of many tools available within the Innerness™ approach. The goal is not to get you talking to AI. The goal is to help you understand yourself more deeply and create meaningful change. The tools used along the way depend on what works best for you.

Both offer different advantages.

In the Group Edition, you learn not only through your own experiences, but through everyone else’s. One person’s question can unlock something in you. Someone else’s story can help you recognise your own. And being seen and understood by people walking a similar path creates a powerful kind of shared healing that 1:1 work can’t replicate. Because the cost is shared, the Group Edition is also the more accessible way to work with me.

With 1:1 guidance, the focus is entirely on you. You have more space, more personalised attention, and complete privacy — which may suit you better if you want to explore experiences you don’t feel comfortable sharing in a group.

Neither is better. They’re simply different ways of doing the work.

The next group will begin once a minimum number of participants have registered their interest and the cohort is confirmed.

When you register your interest, you’re not committing or paying anything yet. Once there are enough people to form the next group, I’ll contact you with the proposed start date and full details. You’ll then have the opportunity to decide whether you’d like to secure your place.

Groups are limited to a maximum of 8 people, so each cohort remains small enough for meaningful individual attention.

You leave with your Real Self Blueprint™ — a personalised roadmap built from everything you uncovered throughout the programme, so the moment the group ends isn’t the moment you stop moving forward.

Healing isn’t linear, and you may reach a new layer or need support with something life throws at you later. If that happens, you can return for a next-level group experience with others who have already done the foundational work, or work with me privately for more focused support — picking up where you left off rather than starting over.

Is this for you?

This program may be a good fit if:

  • You are curious about yourself and willing to question old stories, beliefs and identities
  • You value depth over quick fixes and lasting change over temporary relief
  • You are tired of having awareness without transformation
  • You are willing to be honest with yourself, even when it's uncomfortable
  • You want to become more fully yourself, not simply a better-performing version
  • You're open to being witnessed by others doing similar work
  • You are ready to take responsibility for your own growth rather than waiting for someone else to rescue you

This is NOT for you if:

  • You are looking for a quick fix or surface-level positivity reframe
  • You are not yet ready to examine childhood patterns and their role in your current life
  • You want to be told what you want to hear — this work requires radical self-honesty
  • You are in acute mental health crisis. Please seek clinical support first
  • You've experienced overt abuse, have PTSD or unresolved acute trauma - this work is built for hidden wounds specifically

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no pressure, no commitment. You can decide when the next group date is confirmed.

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